I Asked My Future Self for Guidance… and Got Called Out

The Moment That Changed My Direction

This morning, I was standing in front of my mirror, getting ready, thinking through everything like I always do.

And it hit me.

I don’t pray.
I don’t have a god, deity, or ancestor I go to for guidance.

So I thought… fine.

I’ll ask my future self.

Out loud, I said:

“Future me, I need guidance. What do I do next? I’m stuck, and I don’t get stuck.”

Because that’s the truth. I always figure things out.

And then I answered myself.

Clear. Direct. No hesitation.

“If you want guidance, you need to decide what you actually want.”

That stopped me cold.

The Realization I Was Avoiding

I started running through everything in my life:

• Insurance broker

• Music

• Life coaching

• Wanting to end sexual assault

And that’s when it clicked.

I’m not confused.
I’m overloaded.

I have so many things I can do, I never stopped to define what I actually want.

Not what I’m good at.
Not what makes money.

What I want.

Why This Happens (Backed by Science)

Your brain isn’t built to juggle multiple meaningful paths at once.

The prefrontal cortex handles planning and decision-making. When it’s overloaded with competing priorities, it doesn’t get sharper; it slows down.

That creates the exact feeling I had:

Stuck.
Scattered.
Unclear.

Not because there’s no direction, but because there are too many that matter.

The Question That Fixed Everything

I stopped overthinking and asked something better:

What makes me happy, even if nobody pays me?
What do I naturally talk about all the time?

That’s where the clarity came from.

My Answer, Without the Noise

Once I got honest with myself, it became simple:

• I love helping people understand insurance
  Breaking it down, making it make sense, that excites me

• I care deeply about ending sexual assault
  That’s not optional to me; that’s something I want to fight

Everything else became clear after that.

Music and life coaching?

That’s not my core.

That’s how I express myself.

Why Asking My “Future Self” Worked

This wasn’t random.

There’s a concept called prospection, your brain’s ability to simulate future outcomes and guide present decisions.

When you remove distractions, your mind connects patterns fast.

Which means:

I already knew the answer.
I just hadn’t slowed down enough to hear it.

The Shift That Changed Everything

I stopped trying to be everything at once.

And I separated my life into three clear parts:

• What I built: My insurance career

• What I fight for: Ending sexual assault

• How I express: Music and coaching

That’s clarity.

That’s direction.

That’s movement.

Your Turn

If you feel stuck, try this.

Stand in front of a mirror.
Ask yourself:

“What do I actually want?”

Then listen.

Not for the complicated answer.
For the honest one.

Because the truth is simple.

You’re not lost.
You’re just trying to carry too many paths at once.